However, the last time I checked, I still have breasts, I’m still classified as a female, and when I’m walking toward a building with a manual door, I still like the door opened for me, or even held open for me.
Especially when the same door is being opened and a man is exiting the building.
What kind of idiocy prevails today when a man, seeing me as I approach the door, could not remain there for more than two seconds, to hold the door for me, so I could enter? He wasn’t rushing anywhere and he wasn’t wearing any form of uniform that could excuse him for being in any hurry.
What’s even worse, I’ve seen people blow off the elderly in passing. Maybe the grandmotherly, even great-grandmotherly aged woman was walking a bit slow and people rush past them to get to the door, but don’t hold the door, and this poor elderly woman either has to make a last moment dash and grab for the door, or wait until it’s closed to open it for themselves. At this point, I’ve tried to reach past them to beat them to grabbing the door with a polite, “Let me get the door for you,” and I open the door.
Because it’s polite, it’s the right thing to do.
While we’re at it, let’s run through a list of things a man should know and practice.
1. Show some pride in your appearance. Be clean. Keep your facial hair to a minimum, or at the very least, neatly trimmed. Please, please, PLEASE don’t drown yourself in scented deodorant, cologne, or body lotion. Wear clothes that fit you. I don’t need to see your underwear (There IS a reason why they’re called underwear). If your pants are THAT big, wear a belt. It’s why they exist – to keep your pants up. Your baseball cap is not worn sideways or backwards…and PLEASE remove your hats when you enter a building or sit down at a table, or when being introduced to a woman or older people.
2. Be polite. TO EVERYONE. Always be aware of how you can help people, like holding the door for someone, even if takes you two seconds longer to get to where you’re going. Open a door for someone. If you don’t know if that someone is going to be offended, then be prepared to ask, “Would you like some help?” or “May I get the door for you?” It makes you look all the better for the offer.
3. No one wants to hear you cursing in public, or cussing someone out, or throwing a fit because someone didn’t use their turn signals on the free way. Occasional swearing in private, or amongst your cronies are one thing, but it’s just better if you don’t. Especially when you’re in mixed company or when you could be overheard.
4. Unless the woman is an attention grabbing lady of the night, and even then you shouldn’t…don’t stare, ogle, or say anything that degrades them, to them or about them. This goes back to #2 where you’re being polite and respectful. Be the better person.
5. It was funny in grade school, or with your drinking buddies in college, but not anymore. Don’t belch or fart in public. No one wants to play “Sniff and guess what I had for lunch”. Keep your voice to a polite volume, don’t be demanding, and don’t get drunk in public. Keep control of yourself, mind and body.
6. Be a gentleman when it comes to women. Offer to open our doors, or offer to give up your seat on a crowded bus. No one said to throw your coat over a mud puddle so we can avoid getting our feet wet, but holding an umbrella over our heads while we get into a car would be nice.
7. The world does not revolve around you, so please don’t talk about yourself too much. Women like a bit of mystery. It gives us something to work for. Try to have some topics to discuss in conversation that isn’t all about you.
8. Until you know the people around you, avoid discussing politics and religion. Friendships and potential friendships have been ended because of those two topics and not everyone is comfortable with those topics.
9. Stand up tall and straight. Don’t slouch. You don’t carry the weight of the world on your shoulders and you aren’t being horsewhipped. It makes you look more confidant. However, there’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Don’t swagger. You aren’t better than anyone else, even when you are.
10. Teasing a woman you know is one thing, but outright rudeness and cruelty is another. Even if you think you’re joking, it’s offensive, insulting, and hurtful when a man refers to a woman with a vulgar word or tone.
11. It’s one thing if you’re challenged to stand up for yourself and your values, but it’s another to go off half cocked and start throwing punches at the slightest of provocations. It makes you no better than the person picking the fight. Walk away. If you do end up having to defend yourself, never use weapons other than your fists, and when your opponent is down, end the fight.
12. Be sincere. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Care to add anything?